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tonyajotThere have been some questions as to positions, etc., in regard to anal intercourse.
First timers will find that one of two positions is generally though to be the 'easiest' introduction to this type of sexual activity.
The first would be what is referred to rather crudely in the common vernacular as 'doggie-style'. The person being penetrated positions him/herself on hands and knees, legs slightly parted. This allows the person doing the penetration greater control over variables such as depth, etc.
Alternately, lying side by side with the receiving party in front and the penetrator facing toward the person being penetrated works as well. The recipient should lift the upper leg towards the chest at an angle to allow for maximum control over the angle and depth of penetration.
It should also be noted that the term 'reach around' has become a part of our modern lexicon for a reason. Most recipients of anal sex would prefer to have their own sexual organs stimulated during the act of sex, be it stroking of the person's penis or clitoris while the penetration is ocurring. Failure to provide this additional stimulation for the receiving party may lead your partner to think you a selfish or inconsiderate lover.
Kissing or stroking your partner's neck or upper back while in either of these positions is usually welcomed as well and helps to provide a sense of intimacy to the act, helping to relax your partner and assure him/her that he/she is not alone - that you are with them and appreciative of his/her presence.
Missionary position anal sex is possible, though allowances should be made for the angle and achievable depth of penetration. Placing the recipient's legs upon the penetrator's arms or shoulders helps to adjust the angle of penetration and also helps alleviate the extra weight the recipient is subjected to in this position. Reciprocity in this position is a bit more difficult, but effort should be made to at least periodically make contact with your partner's sexual organs.
Riding your partner's lap during penetrative anal sex can be tricky and takes practice and a great deal of patience. The person doing the penetrating should lie flat and bend their knees, allowing a kind of 'back-rest', if you will for the recipient to use to help keep balance. Slow and steady wins the race in this position. The person on top should set the pace. As this is a particularly exhaustive position, after a period of time, the person on top may become physically incapable of sustaining a mutually satisfactory rythm. With his/her permission, the penetrator may then take over with an upwardly thrusting motion, always taking care not to dislodge their partner or cause them physical harm. As with all anal sex, the tissues there are extremely flexible, but can be torn. Small tears or fissures may bleed slightly. This is not necessarily cause for alarm, but you should be prepared to handle this eventuality with a medicated cream to be applied to any small injuries. Any bleeding that seems excessive or does not stop in short order should be seen to by a medical professional as stitches may be required. Small tears or medically treated tears alike, the person suffering from the injury should take pains to adjust their diets to soft easily digestible foods that pose less strain on damaged tissues. He/she should refrain from anal sex until any such injury has had ample opportunity to heal properly.
In all positions, encouraging the recipient to 'see to their own sexual organs', ie. masturbate themselves while being penetrated can provide much enjoyment for both parties. Some recipients may be self-conscious about this at first, but most will quickly overcome their anxiety if you show and tell them that you find it sexually stimulating and that it is not something for which they should feel shame.
Side note to anon: Having your blow jobs always neat and tidy is not something for which I would strive, if I were in your position. The best oral sex is messy - in fact what I've found (personally and through anecdotal evidence) is that the messier the blow job the better. Saliva is your friend. Worry about the clean-up after all the ringing in your ears has died down.
First timers will find that one of two positions is generally though to be the 'easiest' introduction to this type of sexual activity.
The first would be what is referred to rather crudely in the common vernacular as 'doggie-style'. The person being penetrated positions him/herself on hands and knees, legs slightly parted. This allows the person doing the penetration greater control over variables such as depth, etc.
Alternately, lying side by side with the receiving party in front and the penetrator facing toward the person being penetrated works as well. The recipient should lift the upper leg towards the chest at an angle to allow for maximum control over the angle and depth of penetration.
It should also be noted that the term 'reach around' has become a part of our modern lexicon for a reason. Most recipients of anal sex would prefer to have their own sexual organs stimulated during the act of sex, be it stroking of the person's penis or clitoris while the penetration is ocurring. Failure to provide this additional stimulation for the receiving party may lead your partner to think you a selfish or inconsiderate lover.
Kissing or stroking your partner's neck or upper back while in either of these positions is usually welcomed as well and helps to provide a sense of intimacy to the act, helping to relax your partner and assure him/her that he/she is not alone - that you are with them and appreciative of his/her presence.
Missionary position anal sex is possible, though allowances should be made for the angle and achievable depth of penetration. Placing the recipient's legs upon the penetrator's arms or shoulders helps to adjust the angle of penetration and also helps alleviate the extra weight the recipient is subjected to in this position. Reciprocity in this position is a bit more difficult, but effort should be made to at least periodically make contact with your partner's sexual organs.
Riding your partner's lap during penetrative anal sex can be tricky and takes practice and a great deal of patience. The person doing the penetrating should lie flat and bend their knees, allowing a kind of 'back-rest', if you will for the recipient to use to help keep balance. Slow and steady wins the race in this position. The person on top should set the pace. As this is a particularly exhaustive position, after a period of time, the person on top may become physically incapable of sustaining a mutually satisfactory rythm. With his/her permission, the penetrator may then take over with an upwardly thrusting motion, always taking care not to dislodge their partner or cause them physical harm. As with all anal sex, the tissues there are extremely flexible, but can be torn. Small tears or fissures may bleed slightly. This is not necessarily cause for alarm, but you should be prepared to handle this eventuality with a medicated cream to be applied to any small injuries. Any bleeding that seems excessive or does not stop in short order should be seen to by a medical professional as stitches may be required. Small tears or medically treated tears alike, the person suffering from the injury should take pains to adjust their diets to soft easily digestible foods that pose less strain on damaged tissues. He/she should refrain from anal sex until any such injury has had ample opportunity to heal properly.
In all positions, encouraging the recipient to 'see to their own sexual organs', ie. masturbate themselves while being penetrated can provide much enjoyment for both parties. Some recipients may be self-conscious about this at first, but most will quickly overcome their anxiety if you show and tell them that you find it sexually stimulating and that it is not something for which they should feel shame.
Side note to anon: Having your blow jobs always neat and tidy is not something for which I would strive, if I were in your position. The best oral sex is messy - in fact what I've found (personally and through anecdotal evidence) is that the messier the blow job the better. Saliva is your friend. Worry about the clean-up after all the ringing in your ears has died down.